I’m trying to learn patience today

One of my colleagues is excessively demanding – with no understanding of how they brush up against me.

There’s many ways I could handle it, and sometimes I get it wrong.  But when I do, I apologise.

• I like quiet, she’s noisy
• She doesn’t see when others are busy but pushes through with HER needs as priority

I try and be diplomatic and considerate. But when I’m having my own personal challenges I sometimes go for the wrong option.

It’s a common problem. As I go around talking at Conferences, I often get asked how to manage difficult colleagues. Perennial problem with lots of ways to manage it.  Not all good.

How do you handle difficult colleagues?

Are you considerate? Do you cut them some slack (knowing their personality) or do you give as good as you get?

In other words – how Mindful are you when your personal space is breached and your hazard lights are set off?

We all have to find our way around these situations.  It’s part of working collaboratively.  And yes, just like being a Parent, sometimes WE have to take the higher ground, for the good of all concerned.

I remember my Grandpa telling me to ‘pick’ my battles (I spoke of that last week). Do we need to ‘be right’? Would it matter if we accept the situation and go with the flow, instead of resisting and letting the world know we feel invaded?

Wouldn’t it be lovely if we could see ahead and know the outcome of others’ outbursts in our space?

We may be out of practice of working alongside colleagues.  Re-establishing smooth relationships after so long could be difficult.

• Please take time to find a way to gel with others.
• Find a middle ground.
• Try and see things from their point of view.
• Weigh up the task with the cost
• Gauge your irritation and make a balanced choice

 I know it’s not easy, but find a common ground.  It will work out much better in the long run if you find the grace to be patient.

Love and Light

Geraldine